Five questions to reflect on your life.

 
 
 

Our favourite responses from Sao Paulo to Shanghai.

 
 

2. How have you changed over the past year?

 

“Become grumpier and more of a recluse.”

“I think I became more lost.”

“I’ve become more comfortable with saying no, and failing to live up to the expectations of others in order to live more in line with how I want to spend my life.”

“I have become more patient with the faults of others, yet less eager to jump into the deep end with my heart on my sleeve. I am more content with the output of my days in terms of being able to do meaningful work, but I am less content with the quality of my relationships. I have also started having a relationship with my mother for the first time ever, which I enjoy tremendously and am very grateful for.”

“I have no patience for a few things that I find wrong. If I find them wrong I just raise a voice about it, rather than being patient about it. I am slightly more self aware compared to before and constantly fighting and trying to find out the answer to who am I?”

“Significantly. Time has become more valuable than wealth and a successful executive career no longer sufficient mitigation for being apart from family and friends.”

“I’ve become intensely curious and have learnt to celebrate all the benefits this brings, as well as how this is a unique part of myself. I have also learnt how to give myself time to regenerate.”

“Opened up more sexually and romantically
Found my ‘passion’
Become more ‘colourful’
But feel like there’s still far to go :)”

“I have become bolder and less afraid to admit vulnerabilities.”

“I have become less adventurous and more reserved. Less hungry, but I hustle more. I’ve become more openly honest, regardless of what I believe people will think. I’ve really stoped concerning myself with others opinions. I eliminated social media and it has been freeing.”

“I became less concerned about living up to other peoples (imagined?) expectations after the death of my father.”

“More responsibility at work, more independence in my personal life, less connected to family, less emphasis on social.”

“I have become far more aware of the ‘abuses’ of my time. Both by work when it crosses boundaries that upset me but also by myself when I ‘fail’ in doing the things I need and let myself down. But I am also more forgiving of myself”

“A lot, less partying. More reflection. Understanding my emotions and the internal struggle of the self. I am more appreciative and ‘in the moment’.”

“I have become more careless with money. That’s not good.”

“Maybe become slightly better at living with complexes … also recently become really tired of feeling guilty”

“I have become more patient with the faults of others, yet less eager to jump into the deep end with my heart on my sleeve. I trust people around me less. I am more content with the output of my days in terms of being able to do meaningful work, but I am less content with the quality of my relationships. I have also started having a relationship with my mother for the first time ever, which I enjoy tremendously and am very grateful for. I am less able of being open about my heartache with people, but strangely have become much more genuine as a person altogether.”

“I listen to myself more than ever. Thanks to my shrink.”

 
 
 

2. Where are you right now? What events led to this moment?

 
 
 

“Finding my way again having been lost. Pushing for something that I should have understood was not meant to be.”

“I am supporting a client in telling a story. Improving a storyline. Reputation led me here.”

“In my dream city, so many countless alignments.”

“Finding my way again having been lost. Pushing for something that I should have understood was not meant to be.”

“Living in Berlin, Neukölln in a two-room apartment and working in a digital agency in Kreuzberg. In a relationship. and somehow happy yet unsatisfied. Nothing led me here … it just happened.”

“I am in-between happy and unhappy. I live in Amsterdam for 3 years, I have a good friend here. I have gained 20 kilo over this time. I am dazzled.”

 
 
 

3. What’s one thing you need more or less of in your life?

 
 
 

“The power to make decisions.”

“Less chasing. More loving.”

“More time by the water and in the water. More quiet moments.”

“More authenticity and speaking my truth. Less looking for fulfillment outside and chasing anything or anyone.”

“I could use more hugs. I miss being in an environment surrounded daily by my closest friends or family.”

“I need more honest communication with my partner.”

“I need a bit more adventure. My career is incredible but time consuming…it’s a vocation and a lifestyle rather than just a job and every decision I make is made around it. I love my job whole heartedly, but I definitely need to make more room in my life for spontaneity and discovery.”

“I need more gentleness, I need less guilt.”

“I’d like to have a greater feeling of ‘self containment’ and satisfaction/acceptance.”

“I am longing for a more social, human-oriented society without the neoliberal dogma of maximum functioning, self-optimization and control through implemented fears.”

“I need more close, meaningful friendships. I need to be able to trust a guy again. I need less of my many small fears and insecurities.”

“I need more softness and tenderness in my personal life, with room to breathe. Life has been intense for a long period of time, and I am excited about what I am doing. But I often over-compensate it with too much imbalance.”

“More joy, more adventures, less self criticism.”

“More sex. More champagne. Less traffic.”

“More solitude and less escaping with sex and weed.”

“I need my boyfriend more around me. We have a long distance relationship and he is the only one who brings me down when I am all blown away.”

“I need more real friends and more love in my life.”

“I need to spend more time writing. I need to understand what I want out of life more. I need more time with that aforementioned girl. I need to cook more.”

“More stability and love is what I need.”

“I need more freedom in my life, I need less dependence from others.”

 
 
 

4. What do you value most about your closest friend and why?

 
 
 

“We are mirrors to each other and they are so essential to my inner growth.”

“His positive energy. No challenge is too big, he’s a dreamer.”

“Honesty, patience and support — I live in my own bubble sometimes so I need someone to drag me out but in a gentle way.”

“Their heart, spirit, confidence, trustworthiness, humor, aliveness, level of consciousness, craziness, think out of the box.”

“Being real. Showing vulnerability. Living wildly. Taking risks. Showing love. Generosity. Humour. Creativity. Respect. Exploring. Being humble. Life long learning.”

“Their sense of inhibition and spontaneity. As I think it’s something I lack.”

“I value that my closest friend understands me very deeply. We have known each other across many cities. We talk endless about deep stuff. We really see each other. And that comes from being inquisitive but also sharing the same drive to build things respectively. We can do things differently but still enjoy and respect one another.”

“Her incredible courage to face her life and make choices that are difficult and different.”

“I can rely on them if I am in the shit.”

“She understands my shortcomings but doesn’t fault me for them.”

“Listening without judgement, which gives me the freedom to be who I am.”

“He’s very smart (intuitive and intelligent). He’s also very emotional. I think it’s important to have a good mix of both character aspects to live a good life, the latter helps you enjoy life, the former helps you shape it well.”

“The support they have given me, which was crucial to get through it all, bruised but somehow still sane.”

“Willingness to listen actively and to share honestly.”

“She is honest, she is a honest mirror into my heart. I can be perfectly myself and she loves me for that.”

“We always pick up where we left off, and have unspoken understanding and acceptance of each other.”

 
 
 

5. What’s your most treasured possession? If it had a voice what would it say about you?

 
 
 

“My drawing pencil would say ‘I don’t see you often enough’.”

“My children. They say I’m good at fixing things.”

“Peace of mind … ‘sometimes she has it … sometimes she doesn’t.”

“My journal. It would say that I am constantly in search of understanding myself better, and that I am very indecisive and often lost, but occasionally (rarely) have decent ideas / thoughts.”

“My first guitar. It would say I tried.”

“My grandfather’s scarf. It would say it loves me always.”

“My heart. It would say to remember each heart is different and special in its own way.”

“My Bose headphones, ‘She needs more space and time for stillness’.”

“My most treasured possession is probably my Grandmother’s wedding ring passed down to me by my Mum. I think it would speak to me in my Nan’s voice and tell me to pull myself together, that I’m a strong and good person, and that I am worthy of the good things that are happening to me, even if there are times when I feel like that’s not wholly true.”

“My bicycle. It would say that I’m a bit reckless, wild and a lot of fun.”

“My cat. He would say I’m a mess but he loves me.”

My books! The substantial ones. 
They: ‘She loves us. We are like other beings to her, with voices she has conversations with in her mind. We are like teachers to her, friends, like-minded connections, full of wisdom (mostly), strings of beauty sometimes. She needs us too: without this inner dialog with us she feels easily lost, unconnected to something bigger than her. Sometimes we are distraction too, but over the course of the last years she looks for knowledge, insights, revelations, understanding and other ways of living in this world. Tools for change and development’.”

“My guitar. It would say ‘give him a break, he’s only doing it for fun’.”

“My passport. It’s the only physical thing in this world I care about. So many opportunities depend on it, it makes me feel free. It would say I need to give it a rest once and a while.”

“Currently my swing chair, and it would tell me to read more and smoke less.”

“My journal. It would say that I am constantly in search of understanding myself better, and that I am very indecisive and often lost, but occasionally (rarely) have decent ideas / thoughts.”

“My wedding ring. ‘She’s very simple, really’.”

 
 
 

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